Hi, I’m Alexis Craig. A married woman helping other women explore the sticky field of marriage. I will show you how you can experience a deeper relationship and develop unshakable confidence to improve your life and marriage.
I was married at 18. About four months after the wedding date, I felt alone. I will never forget when I told my husband, “I no longer felt loved.” My world seemed empty. I wanted companionship.
I constantly wondered what was wrong with me. Why did my husband no longer pursue me like he did when we were dating?
I tried everything those “professional” marital counselors give. I tried to give him space. I tried to spice things up. I tried to do everything. When that didn’t work, I tried the opposite. Nothing worked.
While I was looking for marital advice, I noticed much of the marital just doesn’t work in today’s world.
I found so much information from “experts” who have a traditional view of marriage — where the man is the only one who works and the woman is the housewife.
This is far from today’s reality. Our marriages are a balance between:
- Getting the chores done: Dishes, carpets, and the bathroom. The chore list does not end. Yet, it’s difficult to get our husbands involved. When toys are on the ground, my husband politely helps by kicking the toys to make a clear walk path.
- Full-time work: We want to work out of the home and still be a mother. We have to balance the pressure of the world making us feel guilty for having a career and desire to provide more for our kids.
- Raising kids: We barely have time to go to the bathroom. Our kids follow us around like little ducks, while our husband’s sit in their for a half an hour.
- Finding time to cultivate our marriage: For some reason, marriage falls under the responsibility of women. Why is this?
Have you ever read one of those marriage books and taken their test that sounds something like this?
Questions for the Wife
I like when my husband helps me do the laundry?
I like when my husband help put the kids down?
I like when my husband fixes things?
Questions for the Husband
I like when my wife does the laundry?
I like when puts the kids down?
I like when my wife cooks?
Why does it HAVE to be the woman’s job to do the laundry? Maybe, sometimes, you just want your husband to do the f@$&ing laundry.
That’s why I started this marriage blog. I knew there was a way to improve our marriage — if only I focused on myself and used psychology. Not just in marriage, but in every aspect of our lives like our careers, parenting, and our health.
It’s not like you haven’t tried to fix your marriage. You have. You tried to motivate your husband to change. You may have even been able to drag him to a counselor. Things change for awhile, but then they return right back to the status quo.
Imagine a marriage where you no longer have to work so hard to make it work. Instead, he chases you like it was when you first dating — you know when he did anything he could to make the relationship work. He might of brought you flowers, always texted you good night texts, and tried really hard to impress your family.
I was able to improve my marriage and myself.
Now, I’m so excited to help women like you transform your life and your relationships. It’s totally possible
Here’s the truth. Your marriage will improve when you begin working on yourself. It starts by developing an unshakable confidence in yourself. It’s not your job to change your husband.
For example, I will show you how to become the anchor in your relationship so that your husband chases you. I will show you how to improve and avoid common topics of arguments like sex or money.
Improve your marriage before you are living like roommates instead of lovers.
Are you tired of having to do it all? The old marital advice doesn’t work in this new world. Are you ready to get your husband and kids to do their job in your relationship? It shouldn’t be about getting them to help. The word help implies that it is your job. Are you ready to start living like lovers instead of roommates?